If you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect anybody else to?
Definition of self-confidence: confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities. Self-esteem is a picture of how you feel about yourself, what you think you deserve, how you rate yourself and whether you approve and accept your character and your own existence.
We are going to take an in-depth look at how the Power of Confidence can:
- positively affect your life
- your health
- the potential for you to be successful
Everyone lacks self-esteem every “once in a while” (except me, I never do that…. kidding)
Even the greatest leaders of all time have lacked their belief in themselves at one time or another. Self-esteem takes an effort. If you don’t have much of it, don’t worry…. we are going to tell you everything you need to know to change that! Self-confidence is a skill that you learn and one that you can practice and master. It takes an effort to maintain a high self-esteem too. It is an ongoing effort (it gets easy to do and it’s fun)
We’ve all known people who have more confidence than us and we all know people who have less.
We tend to admire people who are more confident than us.
- Self-confident people inspire confidence in others.
- They tend to be risk takers – they “have fear”, they just do it anyway
- Self-confident people are optimistic even when things aren’t going so well
- Self-confidant people respect themselves.
- Self-confidence is something you can improve
- Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence – it is something you learn, and you continue to get better at.
- Building self-confidence requires you to maintain a positive attitude about yourself
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” — Maxwell Maltz
Why Is Confidence So Important
When you have self-confidence, you will feel more positive. You will be more likely to try new things or return to things that you enjoy that you may have stopped doing.
Low self-esteem is terrible for your mental and physical health. The negative emotions that come with low self-esteem, weaken the immune system and increase the levels of inflammation. These factors have been associated with heart disease. A low self-esteem increases stress and leads to unhealthy behaviors such as smoking, alcohol abuse, and overeating.
In addition, people with low self-esteem don’t exercise and try to improve their health. They tend to remain inactive and passive – this makes things worse.
The healthy self-esteem is necessary for you to enjoy emotional situations such as joy, pleasure, relaxation and gratitude. These positive feelings offer protection from stress and other difficulties of life while contributing to mental and physical health.
A healthy self-esteem is important for the generation of positive psychological situations, including happiness and joy.
Advantages of a healthy self-esteem
- A high self-esteem has a positive effect on the immune system
- For patients with heart disease, positive emotional situations reduce complications
- Being optimistic and having a positive expectation for the future reduces the risk of heart attacks by 50% and has been associated with better recovery after heart surgery.
- Positive emotional situations eliminate the effects of stress on the body
33 ways to increase your self-esteem
- Visualize yourself as you want to be.
- Affirm yourself.
- Act the part
- Speak assertively
- Take Action
- Do one thing that scares you every day
- Be prepared
- Question your inner critic
- Set yourself up to win.
- Help someone else.
- Care for yourself.
- Create personal boundaries
- Identify your negative thoughts
- Turn your negative thoughts to positive thoughts.
- Refuse to focus on negative thoughts more often than positive thoughts
- Maintain a positive support network. Friends and family (Only Quality People) Even friends and family relationships need to be reevaluated, if they are bringing you down – they have to go.
- Eliminate reminders of your negativity. Avoid spending time around things that can make you feel bad about yourself again. Take the time to sit down and think about all of the things that are bringing you down, from mean friends, a career you don’t much care for, or a living situation that is almost unbearable
- Identify your talents.
- Following your passion can help build your self-confidence
- Take pride in yourself.Not only should you feel proud of your talents or your skills, but you should also think about the things that make your personality great. It can be your sense of humor, your sense of compassion, your listening skills, or your ability to cope under stress. You may not think that there’s anything about your personality worth admiring, but if you dig deep, you’ll realize that you have plenty of admirable qualities. Focus on them by writing them down.
- Accept compliments gracefully. Many people with low self-esteem have difficulty taking compliments; they assume that the person complimenting them is either mistaken or lying. If you find yourself responding to a compliment by rolling your eyes, saying, “Yeah, right,” or shrugging it off, you should re-frame your response to compliments.Take it to heart and respond positively. (Saying “thank you” and smiling works well). Let the person giving the compliment know that you really appreciate it, and work to reach the point where you are able to truly accept the compliment at heart. You can add the compliment to your list of positive attributes about yourself and use it to bolster your self-confidence.
- Look in the mirror and smile.Studies surrounding what’s called the “facial feedback theory” suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register or intensify certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. This will also help you feel happier about your appearance, and to accept the way you look
- Shift to an equality mentality. People with low self-confidence see others as better or more deserving than themselves. Instead of carrying this perception, see yourself as being equal to everyone. They are no better or more deserving than you. Make a mental shift to an equality mentality and you will automatically see an improvement in your self-confidence.
- Dress Sharp. Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself
- Walk Faster. One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self-confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important
- Good Posture. Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self-confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing, and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
- Personal Commercial. One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.
- Gratitude. When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you must be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.
- Compliment other people. When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to complement those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self-confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
- Sit in the front row. In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self-confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self-confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.
- Speak up. During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact, most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
- Work out. Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self-confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physical appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.
- Focus on contribution. Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self-confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.
There are numerous conditions associated with low self-esteem:
- Reluctance to put yourself first or anywhere.
- Reluctance to trust your own opinion
- Expecting little out of life for yourself
- Social withdrawal
- Anxiety and emotional turmoil
- Lack of social skills and self-confidence. Depression and/or bouts of sadness
- Less social conformity
- Eating disorders
- Inability to accept compliments
- An Inability to be “fair” to yourself
- Accentuating the negative
- Exaggerated concern over what you imagine other people think
- Treating yourself badly but NOT other people
- Worrying whether you have treated others badly
- Reluctance to take on challenge
Why Should Self Esteem Matter to You
- Self-esteem can be the difference between success and failure
- Esteem can affect your thinking, causing your outlook to be positive or negative
- Esteem affects your confidence
- It affects your self-image
- If you do not value yourself how will you be able to value others?
- Self-esteem enables you to have the right attitude to succeed at work
- It affects your happiness.
- It can keep you healthy