How To Think Positively Even When It Isn’t Easy
If you are reading this article, you and I have something in common. You are having a hard time thinking positively in your current situation and you are unhappy or even sad. The truth of the matter is, we all have this in common. Every single human being has this in common. Let’s start this conversation out with “we are not alone.” That is important to understand. It’s not always easy to think positively, but I have a few helpful tips on how to pull it off!
We things aren’t going our way, we are susceptible to being blue, or sad. Have you ever watched a major sports game on TV? Let’s use the Super Bowl for example. When is the last time a team lost the Super Bowl and left the football field with smiles on their faces feeling like champions? Even professional athletes on the elite level that understand the power of positivity are not always high on it. It’s called being human (it sucks sometimes, I know)
It Isn’t Easy
You are not alone. This is very important to understand. You are not the only person that feels sad, defeated, or even that you aren’t good at anything. I feel this way sometimes too – everyone does.
The worst part about these emotions of negativity and sadness is that we feel we are alone having them. This complicates everything.
Nothing is worse than feeling like you are alone. Couple sadness, negativity or things just not going your way with “feeling alone” and you have a hole in your heart that hurts.
The next time you are feeling like life isn’t going your way or anything negative for that matter, think of me – the “motivational speaker and blogger who’s meaning and purpose it is to inspire and empower others” not always being able to motivate and encourage myself. Am I a fraud? No, I am a human. We don’t think positively all the time, but we can certainly get better at it!
What Thinking Negatively Does To Us
Before we dive into thinking positively let’s talk about why it is so important! The alternative to thinking positively is, thinking negatively! I know, I’m a smart guy! Thinking negatively does something incredible to us, it raises our cortisol levels. Negative thinking causes stress in our lives and can lead to depression and mood disorders.
Cortisol is our body’s alarm system that controls our mood, motivation and fear levels. It is a very important aspect of our survival (associated with “fight or flight). It’s stress. Basically.
Stress is associated with terrible things concerning our bodies:
- Poor Concentration
- Memory Problems
- Problems with digestion
- Trouble sleeping
- Weight gain
High Cortisol levers are a killer. Negative thinking raises our cortisol levels – enough said (it’s not good).
Enough About Being Negative
If you practice positive thinking then you will most likely believe that you can overcome any situation! Guess what? You will be more likely to succeed if you feel this way! If you go into a situation thinking positively about it (I can do this) then you are more likely to put forth a solid effort, which will certainly increase your success rate odds)
Think about it. If you were thinking negatively (I can’t do this) how hard would you try? If you knew you were likely to fail, how hard would you try?
How To Be Positive
Not to be negative or anything, but the first step in eradicating negativity in our lives is to acknowledge when we are being negative. If you are thinking negatively, you didn’t just “start doing this yesterday.” You most likely have been thinking negatively your entire like (relax, we are all in the same boat).
Acknowledge Your Negative Thoughts
We are most often on autopilot concerning our thoughts. We don’t have to conjure up “all the worst-case scenarios” and worry about things that may or may not happen, our brains take care of this for us! Switching off the autopilot is the first step in changing our thoughts from negative to positive!
How? Simply acknowledge your negative thoughts! I would recommend carrying a notepad with you and every time a negative thought crosses your mind, write it down! Don’t try to change it or challenge it, just acknowledge it!
Challenge Your Thoughts
When you acknowledge your thoughts and some of them are negative, challenge them! Ask yourself:
- Is this thought is logical?
- How likely is it to be true?
- Does it serve you well?
- Do you need it?
- What would I do if someone else said that to me?
Replace the Negative with Positive
You might not be able to eliminate negative thoughts, but you can replace them! Every time you think a negative thought and acknowledge it, replace it with a positive one! If your brain can be on autopilot thinking negative thoughts, then it can also be on autopilot thinking positive ones!
You have to train your brain! You have to switch autopilot off, acknowledge what you don’t like (negativity) and replace it with what you do like (positivity). Eventually, you will find your brain conforming to your command. It takes time and it takes practice
Better Not To Be Thinking At All
You’ve heard the saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” haven’t you? Well, the same is true for your thoughts. If you don’t have anything positive to think about, try not thinking about anything!
The truth is, it’s next to impossible not to think about anything (unless you are in a meditative state). Your brain wants to think. It can’t help itself, that’s it’s job. Therefore, you might find it impossible not to think. So, the only alternative is to control what you are thinking about!
Refuse to think negatively! If you do, acknowledge your negative thought and replace it with a positive one! Think positively about eradicating negative thoughts (I’m serious)
Easier said than done? Only if you think it is!
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