Love is a two-way street (and friendship is love)
We all have friends that we don’t love – they are called “acquaintances”.
Acquaintances are not granted the authority (by us) to have an impact on our emotions. If an acquaintance doesn’t support you, you are most likely not to care.
However, a friend – a real friend…is granted the authority to impact us. We give it to them.
Because, we trust them. We love them. They fulfill our basic need to have lively, uplifting and supportive people in our lives.
- This article is about you.
- This article is about the importance of the trust you hand to people
- This article is about the authority that you give to others enabling them to impact you.
Would you be friends with someone who:
- Talks behind other people’s backs (if they do it to them, they do it to you)
- Discourages you or tells you your “ideas” aren’t possible
- Doesn’t return your calls
- Doesn’t want the absolute best for you (wants to see you succeed)
- Takes but doesn’t give (takes advantage of you)
- Blames you
- Can’t keep a secret (a real friend would never betray your trust)
- Lies to you
- Leaves you out (oops – they “forgot to invite you”)
Of course, you wouldn’t – and you shouldn’t.
You need positive relationships in your life. They will help you overcome difficult times – chasing your dreams can be challenging. A true friend is the person in your corner telling you to get back up.
- A true friend is someone who you want to know all about
- A true friend is someone who you want to listen to
- A true friend is someone who you hat you want the best for
- A true friend is someone who you want to succeed
A true friend reciprocates your friendship
Am I’m too nice? Here are some of the signs:
- You do more for others than you expect them to do for you
- You listen to others but don’t want to “bother” anyone with your problems.
- You would never dream of asking someone a favor, but you are the one everyone knows will help them
- You agree with whatever people are talking about (even though you really don’t)
- You give, but never take
- You are extremely empathetic towards other people
- Nobody ever knows that you are having a bad day
- You think everyone is “you friend “(or you want to think this, so you do)
- You genuinely care about other people – even strangers you just met
What is the problem with this?
NOTHING……You are perfect “friend material”.
The problem is, not everyone you meet possesses these qualities. Some, even prey on others with these qualities.
Having the above-mentioned characteristics are not a “weakness.” If you have one or more of the above listed qualities, you may have (at one time or another) attributed it to a weakness.
Because someone exploited it. Someone took advantage of you and used your positive attribute to benefit themselves. Now, you attribute your generosity as a weakness because it got you hurt.
So, what happens? You attribute that particular quality as a weakness and you learn “not to be like that”. Essentially, what you are doing is learning “how not to be a good friend.”
Here is the solution. Recognize that “you are not the problem.” The company you are keeping (or kept at one time) is the problem.
You might be kindhearted, but you aren’t stupid (only smart people read our blog)
The solution is not to change who you are and delete the personality traits that you have, it is to find other people who value those qualities in you……
Where are they?
There aren’t that many – hence the reason they call it a “best friend.” When you find this person, they are more important to you than all your other “friends” so you call them your “best friend.”
How do you find a best friend? You look for one! (profound statement – we know)
Seek and ye shall find!
Staying true to yourself is the challenge.
Not allowing other people to “mold you” into someone you are not by the way they treated you…is the challenge.
If you are hanging around others and you can’t be “you” around them – you are in the “wrong flock”.
Be who you are and delete the people in your life that prohibit you from being who you are. GET AWAY FROM THEM.
Yes, we said that.
Your “best friend” (that you haven’t met yet) will not come anywhere near you while you are in the company of someone they do not want to be anywhere near.
- Surround yourself with quality people.
- Surround yourself with people who inspire you
- Surround yourself with people who encourage you
- Surround yourself with people who care about you
- Surround yourself with people who care about other people other people
- Surround yourself with people who want the best for you
Remember this: You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself.
“You are the company that you keep.”
If you are hanging around people who complain all the time and always saying mean things about other people – then, you will be considered the same.
Life can be challenging at times. Having someone to share you ups and downs is important.
Being there for someone else, to share their ups and downs is important too (not just to them, but to you). Being able to prove that you are a loyal and trusted person to someone else, is a remarkable opportunity.
There are many “interests” that draw people closer together: Finding something in common with others is a great way to “open the door” to a new relationship.
However, a true friendship ……is love……and love, is a two-way street!
“Being a real friend” ……. is just as important as “having one“.
Do you have a “best friend?” Tell us how you met and how much they mean to you in the comment section below!
Author: Philip Isaac
Philip Isaac is the founder of Electrified Mind. He is determined to reach the highest level of personal development as humanly possible by interacting with other world leaders through the Electrified Mind Podcast and absorbing all the knowledge they have to offer (you should join him). His overwhelming desire to make other people feel how he feels about life, drives him.